Friday, August 20, 2010

Did my boyfriend lie about not loving me back?

I met Jason at work a few months ago and we sort of flirted back and forth a few times when finally he asked me out to dinner. The first date was kinda nerve-racking what with all the awkward silences but later it got better and we officially began dating a couple days after that. Things were great, as they always are at the beginning of a relationship. He was the first man to really treat me well and respect me. I just really felt for the first time that he genuinely cared about me even though we were still getting to know each other. We have so many things and common and we can talk about anything. I can tell him anything and just really be myself with him. I never had that before. At work things were great. I always had this thing like you should never date someone you work with but it was really comfortable, people knew even my boss who is awesome knew about us. So after about a month he tells me out of the blue 'i feel like we've been dating for six months' or something like that. I pulled him to the side and just asked him if he felt rushed or whatever and he said no and that he liked where everything was going. After that little talk things went back to regular routine. I would go to his house after work and on most days spend the night. We were spending all our time together everything was wonderful I was so happy and he would tell me all the time how happy I made him. He even took me to meet his mom like after two weeks of dating and was all 'i don't take just anyone to see my mom.' He wanted me a part of his life and to meet his friends. So fast forward to two months later when we are texting and talking back and forth like we do all the time,he tells me via text after we got done talking on the phone that he wants to 'take things slow before we lose each other completely, I was getting attached to you'. I played it off replying like 'oh okay' like it didn't bother me. But i was just shocked and confused by this as it came out of nowhere! I was hurt and told him that I loved him and didn't want to lose him. He just said that he didn't feel the same way. So later even after the painful breakup we are still hanging out and flirting and doing things as if we didn't break up but somehow he was still trying to embed into my head that we were 'just friends' and nothing else. I became very angry and was all bring my stuff back and I'll return your things since you don't 'feel the same way! shouldn't be hard for you right??' he refused. Later he begins buying me gifts like a whole box of white chocolate candy bars that he knows are my favorite, this cute little Wall-E toy just lots of little nick knacks that were just really sweet. I would still spend the night at his place (no sex) and we would just cuddle and hug each other all the time. Even after all that hes like ' I just don't feel the same way you do, and I can see you getting hurt in the future, so better now than later.' Why would a man do all those things if he didn't love the woman? Why would he let me spend the night? or buy me presents? or still contact me at all? It just doesn't make any sense. So recently I told him it would be best to just take a break from each other for a while so I can get over the breakup cuz all we were doing was bickering at each other cuz I wanted to get back together. The first day was rough considering that we work together. I got through it we didn't talk or have any eye contact. It was really hard avoiding him at work but i did it. So did my boyfriend lie about not loving me back? something tells me that he fell in love with me, realized it and broke up with me cuz he got scared. Im just really sad I really feel like I fell in love with this guy. It may sound crazy but people always say 'when it happens you just know' and it finally happened to me and now he's gone. I feel like hes lying to himself and me about how he feels. What should I do? What would you do?Did my boyfriend lie about not loving me back?
Sometimes guys like a girl and then break up with them when their emotions get all mixed up. My son wll not allow himself fall in love after a bad long term relationship that ended. He wants someone in his life as soon as he finds someone he ends it. Men do not handle their emotions well. Men sometimes just as we women decide the other person really isnt who we want to be with, and like the person so much and respect that person so much, that breaking up with them is so hard to take themselves the make a sloppy break up such as your guy has.


Make it easy on him. Move on, remain friends, but dont text and call all the time, after a relationship it takes time to sort out thoughts and get over it, let him get over it, you get over it and if your meant to still be friends let it happen naturally, not because one person pushed the other person.Did my boyfriend lie about not loving me back?
hes playing head games get away befor you get really really hurt, he doesnt know what he wants and your being a fool for keeping in touch an staying in his house hell never give you what you want move on an find someone who doesnt act like a little boy
oh god i will get back to you lol...
OH WOW THATS ALOT TO READ ILL HAFTA *** BACK TO U
i'm sorry, my eyes glazed over after the first 700 words...
I hate to break it to you, but when a guy says something, he means it. They're not cryptic. When he said he didn't feel the same way you do, it's what he means. Stuff in the movies just doesn't happen.








Your safest bet is to move on. Get over him. Find someone willing to commit.

1 comment:

Autor said...


Hi, so me and my boyfriend broke up exactly a 4 months ago. I have been feeling very low because of this as we were very close and have been going out a year and had no problems. He had told me that he had depression and stuff and I tried to help him by always telling him I was there for him and giving him advice. Then he turned around one day and told me he couldn’t cope with being in the relationship anymore. Prior to this we had a small disagreement but nothing you would break up over. My aunt advice to me, that I should look for help in magic. I looking for a website with love spells that work fasts. I choose http://magical-rituals.com and I’m very satisfied. Boyfriend back to me and his depression is over.

Post a Comment