How do you help your baby self soothe himself?

My son is 9 months old, and was 2 months premature. he has refllux real bad from being premature, so ever since he came home from the hospital he has slept in the bed with his daddy and i, and i feel like he is constantly in my arms, me and my boyfriend have no time to cuddle or anything because my son, i feel is spoiled. so how can i wean him from sleeping in the same bed as us, oh and his crib is in our bedroom, we only have a one bedroom. please no rude answersHow do you help your baby self soothe himself?
I can't believe the answers I have read so far!


There is nothing wrong with bed-sharing, and it does not make your baby spoiled. There is evidence showing that babies who sleep with parents are MORE independent and well-adjusted. There are many other benefits to bed-sharing or co-sleeping (sleeping in close proximity, such as having the crib close to your bed). Hopefully some of the other co-sleeping advocates get on and add more answers so that you can see that it is really not bad for your baby at all.


The real issue that you have right now, is that it sounds like you are wanting more cuddle time with your boyfriend. I would recommend trying to have baby sleep in his crib for some naps so that he gets used to it slowly. Then at night time, your baby can sleep in his crib for a little while until he wakes up and needs you, and you two get to cuddle until that time.How do you help your baby self soothe himself?
He is spoiled because YOU spoiled him! Because of YOU now he will have to cry himself to sleep til he gets used to being on his own, you need to get him out of your room! Or you two sleep in the living room and let him have the bedroom. Your poor baby has to suffer because of you now! Why did you allow yourself to become pregnant if you didn't have room for a baby?
you know thisb also happen to me so baby smell you so what i did i would put a peace of my clothing next to the baby when she was asleep so like that she would feel that i am right there next to her
WOW!!!!! Tough problem, that needs to be dealt with ASAP!!!!!! If not ,this will go on for many many years!!! My idiot daughter and son-in-law, still have their children (now aged 12 %26amp; 10 years) sleeping on mattresses beside their beds or coming into their beds (Too Lazy to take the time to resolve the problem!!! By the way, these fools make more than $200,000.00 per year and buy the kids everything ,so go figure!!!!!!!!! Does your child have a favourite blanket or soft toy????? What you really need to do is spend time with this child before bed...give a massage with baby lotion, cuddle and rock with toy or blanket and keep everything VERY VERY CALM!!!! Put in the crib and then get ready..........there will be alot of screaming, but, who is in Charge???? I know...nerve racking...but you need to be consistant...Do NOT talk to the child after you put him to bed...You can quietly check, but again DO NOT TALK or react in any way to the tantrums.....This may take days or weeks, but, will work!!!!!!!!!!!! Other than that, you may end up with a very spoiled brat and no boyfriend......OR MOVE THE CRIB INTO THE LIVING ROOM at NIGHT and let the kid howl for awhile......Sorry, not being cruel, just sensible....After having 4 kids under the age of 6, I learned really quickly how to deal with these problems...Kids instinctively know when they can't ';push your buttons'; ....Just remember a few weeks of pain will result in years of gain!!!!!





Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hi! Congrats on your son! We have a little boy with acid reflux as well. have you gotten any medication from the dr for this? If not, that's my first suggestion. Our son is on Pepcid, it has made a world of difference, also we give him formula with rice starch pre added, so it helps it stay in his tummy and not in his throat. My second suggestion is a ';mommy bear'; or one of the things that makes the sounds of the womb. It is supposed to help newborns sleep, because they are used to those sounds. We got my son one when he was 2 months old and though it doesn't lull him to sleep it does pacify and soothe him. I have it set to play for 8 minutes at a time, and it's both movement and sound activated, so it will turn on when he squirms or screams. Another trick we tried was wrapping him really well in 2 blankets, and not the swaddler/ recieving blankets. My son likes the thick plush blankies, so we wrap him in one, and cover him with the other. He gets all snuggly and nice and he can't stay awake. Lastly, we live in a one bedroom as well, so we moved him and his crib to the living room. We stuck additional blankets on either side of him to make him feel secure and cuddled. Becuase he's only feet from our room we can still hear him if he cries, but not if he's just moving around or coo-ing. I think it helped him as well, because he doesn't hear us, and can get to sleep.





I hope this helped you. :) Good luck!