How can I get my boyfriend to be more effectionate with me?

I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years now and we've lived together for over 3. We have like no intimacy in our relationship anymore. He has never been an effectionate guy... but it seems to be getting worse and worse. Almost every time i go near him to cuddle, hold his hand, or anything he gives me an excuse and tells me to get away such as its too hot, i dont feel good, or he just calls me a leach... he says he is kidding but still i just wana be close to him. Whenever we do stuff we can never do it just us two, he always wants to bring other people.


We have sex... but its not intamate. It's kind of hurtful to be constantly rejected and pushed away from your boyfriend.


I have no reason to believe that he is cheating on me. I know he has a lot on his mind. We both have things we stress about. But all i want is to come home to arms that are open for me. What can i do to maybe spice things up? I'm thinking he just might be bored. Any opinions?How can I get my boyfriend to be more effectionate with me?
hey im 14 :D yeh i kno pwetty young but it seemz he is jus a lil' preoccupied r feel he isnt statifying u, mayb u shud tlk to him about it u kno carry him aside n ask him what the problem mayb he is bored n what can u do to make thiongs bak to the status it once was, make yallz sex more enjoyable have pleasure being wid each other all those stuff, its ovious u luv him dear cuz 4 YEARS!!! dats pwetty long hold on to him as long as u can n try rele hard iight if it doesnt work out it wasnt meant to b hope u get happy :D